Dating Secret #37

Here is something to think about: (this is in reponse to some dating questions I get from time to time)
Ladies, as you date - keep this in mind: They way a guy talks about his family and especially how he talks about his mom is the best indicator of how he will treat you (one day . . . maybe not on any individual date). Studies back this up in big ways. Guys, the way a girl talks about her father is how she is likely going to relate to the guy she marries.
Do ALL follow this pattern? Of course not, but it's like saying that when you throw a ball at me, I am going to catch it with my left hand. COULD I catch it with my right hand? Yes. BUT I HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT MORE.
The way a guy (or girl) talks about their family is a guiding indicator of how they will one day relate and treat those they commit to.
It's something to think about.
So what if you don't have a relationship with your mom and/or dad? What if you live with only one parent (primarily). Again, you need to be aware that you will have to THINK a bit more as you relate to that particular sex because you don't have a pattern. It CAN be done and it can be done well, but you need to KNOW this as you journey toward that relationship. You will have to be MORE AWARE (like cathcing a ball with your opposite hand).
Ladies, the secret is that FOR THE LONG TERM: how a guy talks about his mom is how he will come to view the role of wife, mom, and mate because when the "romance" becomes reality, it is all he knows. To be honest with you, guys are not all that aware of this truth . . . and guys, you need to know that you need to find someone (I'm talking ultimately and not necessarily for whomever you ask out for this Friday night) who will be a good mother because VERY soon in your relationship it will be one of the things that matters most (although I realize that it is not tops on the list in high school perhaps.)
Bottom line for my Christian sisters: If he does not treat his mom with respect, he has no idea how to treat you with any.